My Road to Patience..

Assalamu’alikum Beans 🙂 #PeaceBeUponYou

Subhan’Allah – How time flies right? It’s been nearly 3 years since I have started this blog and a lot has changed since. Alhumdullilah, after all the hard work, I have graduated and achieved a BSc Psychology with Honors last year. Graduating was definitely my greatest achievement and it was through Allah’s Mercy that I was able to reach the end with flying colors. I realized coming out of education was not a walk in the park – it was difficult. All my life I knew nothing but to study study study, but since studies were over, I did not know what to do or where to go. At the time, I was not working due to the operation I had on my wrist so that meant I had more time with family and friends (Alhumdullilah, it was awesome). When my wrist started to recover, I needed to start looking for a job, and boy, it was hard..

As weeks go on, I had many interviews but none of which I felt was for me. I always prayed to Allah to provide me with a job that would be beneficial for me in this world and the next – so I thought why not get into healthcare? I was applying for jobs for a while and as time was passing by, my anxiety was getting stronger and stronger. Not having a job made me feel useless and my self-confidence was declining. So one day I came to realization that stressing was not increasing or decreasing the outcome I was wanting, rather if I do my bit and leave the rest to Allah it will be better for me both mentally and spiritually. After transforming my mind-set, a week later I got an interview for the job I really wanted and ALHUMDULLILAH, I got in.

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What did this experience teach me?

In life sometimes you have to wait and be patient even when you feel like the world is crumbling around you. Patience is not easy, and no one is saying it is, that is why there is so much rewards in being patient especially in time of difficulty – whether it be looking for a job, suppressing anger or searching for a spouse, everything requires patience.

When you think the outcome is truly based on your input, you are incorrect. Everything has a fine balance – you have to do your part in getting what you want and then leave your trust on Allah; true sincere trust. It maybe hard at first but I can promise you, you will see a good outcome. One thing that helps me put my trust in Allah is to think He has fashioned and created me from one cell to a full-human being. Allah has created me, so He knows me better than I know myself – so therefore He will always want whats best for me.

Do your part, then leave your trust in Allah. 

~ Until next time

Assalamu’alaikum 🙂

Define ‘True Success’.

Assalamu’alaikum Beans 🙂 #PeaceBeUponYou

moneyToday’s thought will be on the idea of true success. We are born in a world where we are told that success is all about “money money money”. If we do not end up with a £100,000+ salary, then we have not succeeded enough because all the “top dogs” out there have more. There would be that odd person who would say “It’s not all about the money”…and as if that statement was a sin, you will start to see a hurricane of people trying to roll their eyes in discrete. But I must agree; success should not be defined by money. I do understand how wealth could be seen as a one way ticket to happiness as it enables people to feel stable and secure and by means, it is okay to be wealthy, however to define ones success with money is where things start to tarnish. You see some wealthy celebrities, drunk off their heads and happily married to drugs – makes sense why some people refer to them as “filthy rich”. Whereas you see those with nothing but ragged clothes on their backs, but they smile from ear to ear. This makes me question what life’s true success is and how we can achieve it.

Not everyone’s definition of success is money. Some would say success is living a happy life by fulfilling ones purpose. But many of us would be swept away with society’s idea that success really means: wealth, status, house, car and let’s not forget..”getting the girl”. 😐

Alhumdullilah, Allah has made it SOOOOO easy for us. Happiness, peace and contentment is from Allah alone. He also makes it very clear on how we can pursue happiness without beating around the bush or doing a 10 year course to potentially get it.

Want true success? Yes? Well, Alhumdullilah – there is no secret. Let us open our hearts and listen to this, In Sha Allah

 

Allah Akbar x 4
God is Great

Ashhadu an la ilaha illa Allah x 2
I bear witness that there is no god except the One God.

Ashadu anna Muhammadan Rasool Allah x 2
I bear witness that Muhammad is the messenger of God.

Hayya ‘ala-s-Salah x 2
Hurry to prayer 

Hayya ‘ala-l-falah x 2
Hurry to success 

Allah Akbar x 2
God is Great

La ilaha illa Allah
There is no god except the One God

This is called the “Athan” or known as the Muslim call for prayer.  This noble call is given 5 times a day before each fundamental prayer. Personally, this feels as if Allah puts the world on pause to remind us to take a break, and worship Him, The Owner of the Heavens and the Earth. Whether you are studying for your finals, or working on your last project, or cooking for 50+ guests – when the Athan comes on, everything stops and the prayer begins. Subhan’Allah. Nothing is more important than ones commitment to prayer, because with prayer comes success. Pay attention to the two phrasesgoku praying used in the Athan: “Hurry to prayer, Hurry to prayer, Hurry to success, Hurry to success”. Can Allah make it any clearer? Keeping up with our prayers, and worshiping the One who provides the wealth, the  health, the status, the house, the spouse, the happiness (list can go on), He
will continue to bless us in it and make us succeed. Maybe there is something we desperately need, but Allah Himself is telling us to go directly to Him ask for the things we  want. Success ONLY comes from Allah but of course, we are required to also put our best efforts into pursuing our dreams.

Finally, I want to give a reminder on the ultimate success which can be achieved from this life on Earth, this is Jannah (Paradise), where no eyes have seen or ears have heard. This is true success as Jannah is Eternal.

~ Until Next Time…

P.S Here is a video on the Athan…

CLICK HERE to listen to the “Athan” – Muslim call for pray

 

Love, Choices & Allah.

Assalamu’alaikum Beans! 🙂 #PeaceBeUponYou

Hope you are all well in this beautiful day, In Sha Allah. I just came across something so beautifully written today and I cannot help but share it with you all. Bare in mind, this post teaches us valuable lessons that “Love” is natural for both men and women, but it is what we do with it that could either Please Allah, or cause Allah’s wrath, May Allah protect us all.

Anyways…Without further ado.. here is the post 🙂

“A love letter from a Muslim man to the girl he loves. 

If you love me, don’t confess your love to me through haraam wLOVE LETTERays, This won’t please me and will instead drive me away! Love games don’t attract me. If you love me, have sabr and I will knock on your door when the time is right. Don’t give me privileges which I don’t deserve. Keep me away from you, and I will approach you. If you approach me, I will stay away from you. Don’t love me, for I want you ignorant in love. I want to teach you love when the right time comes and when you will be mine, Only when we are
joined together under our Creator’s satisfaction Don’t tell me what you feel, don’t give me from your time, don’t push me to lose you. I am a man who does not want to see the one he loves committing sins or to live a forbidden love behind her family’s back. I don’t want her to feel guilty and don’t want her heart to suffer. Put me under limits that I won’t cross, kill me inside you so I won’t grow to kill you inside me. Preserve what is beautiful inside you. I want you innocent, chaste, pure. I want you my love, but with Allah’s blessings and not shaytan’s whisperings. And then, Only then, I will face everything and will be ready to go through difficulties to get you, Don’t be easy because then, I may not value you. Don’t love me now, so I won’t hate you! My heart wants yoLove Letter 2u and doesn’t want to lose you. I don’t want you to be just a passing fancy for me, I want you a
wife, a lover, the mother of my children, I want you to be the one I will spend my whole life with. How could I be a faithful man to you when I try to break your chastity? How would I be faithful to you if I push you to betray your family? How could I trust a love which grew under Allah’s wrath ? To make you mine through Nikah is Islam’s way, Till then wait patiently and do not dismay. To love you means to protect you, To Love you is to bring you closer to Allah
and HIS deen to preserve you not to kill what is beautiful inside you.

— Your husband to be Insha’allah 🙂 “

 

Credit goes to “Marriage is Sunnah” page on Facebook.

 

~ Until Next Time…

 

Update & Link on Giving up MUSIC

Assalamu’alaikum Beans 🙂  #PeaceBeUponYouuni

Yes. I know…it has been a long long long long long long long long long *gasps for air* long long long long time since I have posted anything but I promise to update you all on a few things that happened over the past year while I was away, In Sha Allah (God Willing). I hope you all have been well, happy and most importantly getting closer to Allah! lol….I kind of missed you guys. ANYWHOO…:P

Right now, I am currently in my final year studying Psychology in university and I have a few exams left before I am officially DONE!! In Sha ALLAH!  If you could kindly make du’aa (pray) for me and my friends that would be seriously appreciated. 😀 Let’s be nice and start sharing the prayers.

Anyways I wanted to share this article I just came across on Twitter on “How giving up music made me more productive” and this has been written in someone else’s perspective. It is nice to hear other peoples journey in bettering themselves because we could take that opportunity to take a few tips and tricksHeadphones. Also Ramadan is coming very very very soon, so if we can try make a habit now, we can surely be strong during the Holy Month.

Here’s the link below.

How Giving Up Music Made Me More Productive

P.S I hope to later write my experiences how I gave up music for the better, In Sha Allah — SO STAY TUNED 😉

~ Until Next Time..

 

You know it – It’s Ramadan! :P

Assalamu’alaikum Beans 🙂 #PeaceBeUponYou

ramadan-cartoon-7Yes, I know I have not written in a while – not only because I was busy, but also because I did not want to write half-heartedly.  Let us now forget about me, I want to know how you all are doing! In Sha Allah I hope all of you are well and full of happiness in this BLESSED MONTH OF RAMADAN!!!!! 😀 Is it me or has this month been so amazing? Full of love, full of happiness and full of sacrifices for the good. For me personally, it has been a month of reflection and also reconnecting myself with Allah. Like anyone else, my Iman (faith) also fluctuates constantly – but I pray that Allah keeps us all stedfast, Ameen.

For the non-muslims that are viewing and may not be aware of what Ramadan is, I am here to help, In Sha Allah 🙂 Let me explain briefly what Ramadan is – Ramadan is a holy month whereby all muslims around the world restrain themselves from physical needs from sunrise to sunset – this involves not eating, drinking, having sexual intimacy and smoking. Ramadan is not only there to restrain ones physical needs but also to cleanse ones spiritual soul for instance stopping oneself from lying, backbiting, gossiping etc. This holy month is a opportunity for many muslims to break bad habits and reconnect themselves to the All Mighty Lord – Allah. Ramadan is also a time to increase in charity and empathise with the unfortunate. Before you start thinking that this month is crazy, unhealthy and all about starving – trust me it is not :/ After all, we muslims are still alive and healthy LOOL. Instead, fasting has many health benefits for example detoxing the body, neutralising blood sugar levels, lowering cholesterol, increasing ones mental well-being and many more. :p Hah – you secretly want to fast now don’t you? Why not?! Give it a go!

My goodnessI do love Ramadan 🙂 And I hope you are all enjoying it too! 

Narrated Sahl ibn Sa’ad:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “There is a gate in Paradise called Ar-Raiyan, and those who observe fasts will enter through it on the Day of Resurrection and none except them will enter through it. It will be said, ‘Where are those who used to observe fasts?’ They will get up, and none except them will enter through it. After their entry the gate will be closed and nobody will enter through it.”

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Additional message for everyone:

Today I recieved news that a young girl in her teens has passed away from a recent car accident she was in. 😦

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un [Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return].”

I did not know her personally, however the news has given me a great reminder that one day we will return back to our Lord, The Creator of the Heavens and the Earth. Everything within this earth that lives, including you and me has a beginning and an end – but we are all victims of an illusion that makes us believe that we will live immortal lives.

Every soul will taste death. And We test you with evil and with good as trial; and to Us you will be returned. (Qur’an 21:35)

This precious girl, a daughter and a sister, did she know she will return back to Allah? So soon? This could have been any one of us, and we should think to ourselves – what are we going to return back to Allah? The music? The boyfriend/girlfriend? The flirting? The free-mixing? The drugs? The drinking of alcohol? The smoking of cigarettes/sheesha? The backbiting? The gossiping? The lying? The disobedience of your parents? The time-wasting? The excess amount of clothes? The wealth?

Subhan’Allah. Let us all ponder and repent. Muslim.praying-387x2751-2

Allah has taken this beautiful soul in the month of Ramadan, where all heaven gates are open and hell gates are closed. May Allah give her family Sabr (patience) and may Allah grant her the highest of Jannah Ameen. May Allah also help other families who are going through similar situations, may Allah give them all
ease in time of difficulties Ameen ❤

~ Until Next Time…

That one little bite…

Assalamu’alaikum Beans! 🙂 #PeaceBeUponYou

Subhan’Allah, it has been over a month since I have last posted, :O I AM SOOOO SORRY! but I have been really busy with revision. 😥  I have finally finished my exams so I thought this would be the best time to make a small post on something that we may face on a regular basis – gossiping or what we may know as backbiting.

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Hmmm :/ …we all cannot deny that one way or another we have experienced a group gossip, whether it would be in school, work or even in our own homes. As we grow into our teenage years, hormones start flying everywhere. Our feelings and emotions are heightened which could be the spark for starting a backbiting session. My question is WHY?! 😦

Personally I have seen different kinds of friendship groups and in every group; there is a particular agenda. I have understood that staying in a group, every member is trying to gain something that will benefit them in some way. Correspondingly, a lot of time is dedicated to the group we stay with, so that means each member will try and make every moment worthwhile. Some people spend time with each other for good reasons such as sharing similar hobbies, or helping each other study or even reminding each other about Islam. Other groups however, are there for sad reasons like to feed each other’s own desires – this is where backbiting comes in.

Backbiting is when two or more people talk about someone in a negative way while they are not present. Even if the content of the gossip were to be true, it is still backbiting. This is because, if you were to say it front of that person, it will result in their feelings getting hurt. We can also be part of backbiting by simply just being present and listening to the gossip. So we can see that the WHOLE concept of gossiping is wrong, whether you are giving some input or just being there to listen. 😦 We all know deep inside that gossiping itself is not good – you do not have to be a Muslim to know that, yet why do we still do it?

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Do you know what gheebah (backbiting) is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “Saying something about your brother that he dislikes.” It was said, “What if what I say about my brother is true?” He said, “If what you say is true then you have backbitten about him, and if it is not true, then you have slandered him.”  [Muslim]

This sort of vile activity is done to gain temporal pleasure, which can cause an addiction. Some groups spend majority of their time backbiting as their “fun regular activity”… LOL, it sounds as if I’m talking about a bunch of people who are drug addicts. Well in all seriousness – this could be on the same level, maybe even worse.

What does Islam say about backbiting?

Allah says:

“neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful” [49:12] 

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To backbite about someone, in Islam it is taken as a sin. So imagine this beans – every time we slander a person, we are sinning. Every breath we exhaled to say something bad about someone else – we have basically wasted the oxygen in the air -_-  We can clearly see in this verse that if someone backbites, it is as if we are eating the flesh of our own brother. Blaggghhhh that thought makes me want to become a vegetarian :/ After knowing that, why would we waste our precious time, slandering people off? Subhan’Allah. Do we not have something else better to do? If only we saw the bigger picture. One-day beans, we will die and the All Mighty will judge us. We act as if death will happen later on, maybe when we are 70 or 80 years old and before then we can repent. I am telling you now; we can die ANYTIME at ANYPLACE and imagine the last thing we spoke about before dying was that so and so ugly Jordan shoes. Gosh – those Jordan shoes is not worth your Jannah 😛 but if we only knew.

OK – some of us are maybe in a situation where we want to stop talking about others but do not know how to avoid it. First and foremost, let us repent to Allah; ask him for forgiveness, as he is the Most Merciful, The Most Gracious. Second, those gossip groups that we are in…do not expect a change from them; rather we need to change ourselves first. If we can take ourselves out from that situation – just do it. Do not worry about losing friends and being alone – we need to have trust in Allah that he will make new friends for us that will be worth our time and space. That effort and sacrifice that we do in order to please Allah, just know that he has many rewards waiting for us.

My fellow beans, we are just too precious – too precious to be sinning over something that could be easily avoided. 😦 Let me give a reminder that on the Day of Judgment, every person we have spoken about will have the right to take a portion of our good deeds. So just imagine the amount of people we have gossiped about, we will end up being bankrupt front of Allah where there will be no more good deeds left to show Him. Subhan’Allah.

It is not too late to change; it is not to late to run back to Allah. We need to be careful of the people we hang around with, because merely we are just a pure reflection of them. 🙂

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~ Until next time…

P.S “Backbiting? Purrr’leaseee – Ain’t noooobodyy got time for thaaaaat” 😛 haha – sorry I couldn’t resist.

Letting Go…

Assalamu’Alaikum Beans #PeaceBeUponYou 🙂

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I know, I know – It’s been a while since I have last posted. 😦 Subhan’Allah I had many class tests recently which does weigh something to my overall grade so I have been busy busy busy. :L Finally I am taking a little breather before starting my coursework, which I thought would be the perfect time to write this specific post.

I have realised something strange since I have been going to work and university – I have been asked the same questions over and over. What sorts of question you may be asking? Well of course, questions relating about the choices I have made due to my religion. One question in particular is “How did you manage to let go of music?, how can you live without it?”… :O

Let me tell you my story how I managed to let go of music – and I will tell you now…It was NOT easy. Before trying to become a good muslim, I use to listen to music ALL THE TIME, from  the minute I woke up until the time I went to bed…maybe more extreme than most people out there. I use to listen to all sorts of music, pop – rock – RnB – jazz, you name it, I’m sure I was into it at one point. Subhan’Allah. I cannot believe my ears did not get busted 😛

Second year of college, I knew I had to change, I wanted to build a new positive connection with My Lord, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful. 🙂 A lot was going through my mind and I felt as if I was not on the straight path – I knew this because I was not content with anything that I did. So I came up with this idea that worked for me. I made a checklist with all the things I had to let go, or things that would improve my character as a Muslimah. In the checklist I had things like:

  • Salam Sisters,
  • Read 1 page of the Qu’ran every day,
  • Start praying outside,
  • Stop listening to music,
  • Stop talking to friends who were the opposite gender.

These are just examples of what I had on my list and I would go through these points one after the other. When I have achieved one thing, I would just tick it off and then go to the next point. When it came down to music it was very hard to just “turn it off”. I needed a reality check.. (opera style :P) I wondered why listening to music is haram (forbidden) in the first place and how it was influencing me in a negative way. Why was I spending hours listening to music? What was I even listening to? Why are my emotions changing with the music? LOL Its mind blowing knowing what music can do to the mind!

One day I deleted all my music and replaced it with nasheeds. I wanted to take it slow so I do not back track. But I seem to have been going back and forth. Believe it or not, it took me a year to let go of music completely Alhumdullilah – at least I got there. Now I even limit myself with nasheeds because I can’t waste any more precious time as much as I do already. Allah tests us with many things, but two in particular – Our health and our spare time. Anything is possible as long as the intention is right. ❤ Sometimes we do slip but when you slip, do not use that as an excuse and just lay there like a bean…it’s not pretty LOL 😀 Just pick yourself straight back up and keep on walking!

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Since I stopped listening to music, my mind has been refreshed and opened like a blank canvas. I started to think more about relevant things and Masha’Allah it helped my concentration as a whole.  I have straight away seen the benefits of it. Subhan’Allah – Allah always knows what is best for us, we’re just the silly ones that do not listen. Allahu Akbar (Allah is the Greatest).

~ Until next time..

P.S May Allah make it easy for those who are struggling to let go of something only to please Allah. Ameen ❤ Just keeping trying!